Today’s post is inspired by a paper I had to do for my cross cultural studies class. A little lengthy, but I will put lots of pictures & use profanity to keep you awake, I fucking promise. Anyways, I did Not want to do this assignment. And it’s not because I don’t like the class or that I am not interested in the topic, I just hate writing papers. Weird, rite? Because I am a blogger & all. But papers are so formal and I am a very informal person. Papers are to New York City as Blogs are to Los Angeles. And I am most definitely a Cali Girl at heart. So , professor Jennifer here is my midterm assignment in blog form. If you totally hate it, I will completely change it for the final (this assignment continues into our final) and for once in my life do what I am told. But in my always stubborn a$$ fashion ~ here is my “Thebreedazzledlifestyle.com” attempt.
How do we find and create moments of liberation within contexts of oppression?
See you later,
~ Above is the email my professor sent me telling me the topic of the assignment ~
Well Jenn, I am hopefully going to answer that question, that is if I don’t get off on too much of a tangent because my topic of choice is very, very scandalous.
Let’s talk about Feminism. What is Feminism ?
Ok so basically once upon a fucking time women stayed home and were “oppressed” in society. Men went to work and made the money for the family while women baked apple pies all day. The man was more respected because he had to work and support the whole family. The fucking end. Nowadays women want to be “equal” to men by going to work, making money for their family, and make the same amount of money as a man would in the same position (women make about 77 cents to a mans dollar ).
At my young age of 21, I feel pretty strongly about the topic of women and oppression in society mostly because well, I fucking am a woman and also because I do believe in women empowerment. But I don’t know whether or not that makes me a Feminist, per say.
Here is what I do know about myself:
My ultimate passion in life is LOVE. But not love between me and a man. Sure, that is part of it, but not the entirety. I want to be in love with my life. Everything about it from my job, my friends, where I live, my hair color, my family, in love with a man, in love with my shoes. I want to truly love life. Such a simple idea yet is it achievable ? YES. It definitely is. Over the years of being a major introvert, going in and out of loner phases and often preferring to do things by myself, I have really learned so much about myself. I learned that I want a career, I absolutely love, love, love fashion and the act of getting dressed, Puppies are my favorite people, Pilates is so fun and is good for my soul, My ultimate crush is Brody Jenner, I don’t want to get married young, I want two or three kids and preferably boys, I love making jewelry, and listening to music, I am apparently Caucasian but I was definitely meant to be African American, I was Nicki Minaj in my past life and my women crush Wednesday (even though it is currently Thursday) is Margot Robbie from the Wolf of Wall Street because not only is she beautiful but she basically or I bet for sure even did bang Leo, and who wouldn’t want to bang Leo? Even totally straight guys want to bang Leo.
So because I want to have a career and do so before getting married and doing the whole “wifey” thing, does that make me a FEMINIST? I did some “breesearch” and here is what I found out. “Breesearch” is a word used by my dads ex girlfriend because I like to put my name in words, for example “Breeyonce.” Anyways Breesearch consists of me Googling different questions that come to mind about this topic and reading a bunch of shit in a random ADD like manor in an attempt to figure out the answer.
Does wanting a career make women feminist?
The first response that comes up is a blog post written by Amy Glass who says she ” Look[s] down on young women with husbands and kids and [shes's] not sorry. Below are a few quotes from her blog post :
“…Every time I hear someone say that feminism is about validating every choice a woman makes I have to fight back vomit…” Amy Glass
“…Do people really think that a stay at home mom is really on equal footing with a woman who works and takes care of herself?…” Amy Glass
“…You will never have the time, energy, freedom or mobility to be exceptional if you have a husband and kids….” Amy Glass
“…Doing laundry will never be as important as being a doctor or an engineer or building a business…. ” Amy Glass
I agree with some points Amy made, but I also disagree with some as well.
1. I do not look down on young women for getting married and having kids. It is not the path I am going to take, but I don’t think there is anything “wrong” with that where I would look down on someone for taking that path in life.
2. I don’t look at “feminism” as wanting to do more than laundry and I don’t compare the act of doing laundry to “being a doctor.” There needs to be people doing laundry in this world as much as there needs to be doctors or else we would have nothing to wear.
3.I understand what Amy is saying about not having enough time to be “exceptional” if you have a husband and kids. There are definitely personal & career goals I want to achieve before getting married and having kids. It’s not that I don’t think I can achieve these “exceptional” goals with a family, I am just not even close to being ready for that part of my life BUT I was born for a career. I have always wanted to work in the fashion industry since I was a young girl and I feel as though I have spent the first 21years of my life trying to figure out what kind of career in said industry I am going to be most passionate about.
You can read Amy’s full article by clicking here.
Another search result I found interesting…
There is actually a website called womensliberation.org & on it is an article titled
This is apparently what they want:
1. Women’s lives, ideas, desires, and dreams to be no less important than men’s.
2.We want men to do a fair share of the housework, raising children, and the work of maintaining and cultivating relationships—at least half of it.
3.We want time for work, family, and ourselves.
4.We want to be loved and respected for who we are as people.
5.We want full control over the decision to have children.
6.We want to build upon the victories of the women’s liberation movement of the sixties.
And what they believe…
1.We are Pro-Woman feminists
2.We believe that women are an oppressed class.
3.We believe that all men receive benefits from male supremacy.
4.We believe our oppression is real, not all in our heads, and we cannot escape it through individual acts.
5. We believe that women are the experts on our own experiences.
6.We believe that women of color are critical to the success of the women’s liberation movement.
7.We believe that our economic system makes feminist struggle an uphill battle.
8.We believe that women need a grassroots, independent women’s liberation movement led by and made up of women.
Here are my thoughts on this.
1. I, like the group who wrote this article, also want the time for a career, family and myself. I think the thought of not having the time to do it all is what makes a lot of people’s decisions on doing one or the other. I definitely want the time for myself, a husband, and kids and I feel as though “time management” is something I am just going to have to learn through life.
2.I do not look at women as an “oppressed class.” I cannot name one thing that is holding me back. Yes, a zillion years ago I wouldn’t have been able to fucking vote but I honestly don’t care about a zillion years ago because I was not even alive in those times. I care about now, I don’t feel oppressed in any way and I don’t know of anything holding me back from doing what I want to do.
You may read this whole article by clicking here.
Do Feminists wear makeup?
The reason I am asking this is because I want to know whether or not it is “feminist” to want to “enhance” you appearance. Do Feminists exercise, care about fashion, get their hair dyed, do feminists wear hair extensions? Because I definitely do all of the above. Except I just took my weave out, so no more hair extensions. But I love fitness, not only for the body enhancing aspect but also because a main goal in my life is to be healthy. and I obviously love fashion. I get my hair dyed all the time and have serious commitment issues when it comes to hair color, which of course the ombre trend totally enables me to not commit. Is it “feminist” to care about all of these “girly” things or is it “anti-feminist”?
I found a open blog forum on beautylish.com asking the question “Lipstick Feminism: Is Makeup Anti-Feminist, or Pro-Feminist ” ?
here were some of the responses, each from different ladies.
“I definitely dont think makeup is oppressive to women. You dont have to use it. If its something that can make you feel better about yourself, raise your confidence, feel beautiful, and not that not wearing makeup makes that possible but it helps…..”
“To me makeup is more of an art, which means I dont believe makeup is oppressive to women at all. We live in a society where now a days both female and male wear makeup, its an art where you play with colors and your face is the canvas…..”
“I think the attitude of not being able to leave the house without makeup on is anti-feminist. And that “makeup is beauty” is anti-feminist as well. What I like about makeup is that it is creative! I think of it as a form of art, rather than something to hide my ‘flaws’ and to make me look like a girl on a magazine….”
“Pro! It’s all about making yourself happy and confident, and you don’t have to wear it!…..”
You can read all of the responses by clicking here.
Most responses said that wearing makeup is not being anti-feminist, many referring to it as a “form of art” and agreed that you don’t have to wear it, it is something you choose.
This is how I feel about makeup. Makeup has helped me many times confidence wise for years while I was dealing with bad acne breakouts. It is not oppressive in any way to make yourself feel good, if anything it is the opposite. And although it may seem superficial to spend time on yourself making yourself look “better”, we as humans are superficial. But that’s okay, its natural to have superficial qualities, to an extent of course. I think makeup is totally ok to wear, and I am going to continue to wear makeup until I die. Hopefully I am still able to apply it when I’m like 90 because I will def need some major wrinkle reducing foundation!
Are reality shows such as the real housewives anti-feminist?
I ask this question because I definitely indulge in reality tv. I keep up with the Kardashians and I watch “The Real Housewives” of basically every city. What’s interesting about the “housewives” is that the women who appear on the housewife shows are all so different. Many advocate working and being independent, which may be their reasoning for being on reality TV, the paycheck. Other Bravo housewives however definitely have more of a stereotypical “housewife” mentality.
For example, Melissa Gorga who stars on “The Real Housewives of New Jersey.”
Melissa wrote a book titled “Love Italian Style” where she shares “The secrets of [her] hot and heavy marriage.” A lot of statements she makes in the book were criticized for being “plagued with sexism, double standards and 1950′s logic” according to americanhumanist.org.
lets take a look:
1. “When gender roles are confused, sexual roles are, too. If he’s at the sink and then changing diapers, then who throws down in the bed? In our marriage, Joe is always the man, doing masculine things. I’m the woman, and I do female things, including housework…” ~ Melissa Gorga.
So Melissa, are you saying that Joe doesn’t do diapers? Your life must be filled with shit!
2. “Men, I know you think your woman isn’t the type who wants to be taken. But trust me, she is. Every girl wants to get her hair pulled once in a while. If your wife says “no”, turn her around, and rip her clothes off. She wants to be dominated…”. ~ Melissa Gorga.
So my “no” can never mean NO? But it’s my body…
3. Girls don’t poop. Me, never have. Never will. It just doesn’t happen. Or that’s what Joe thinks! We’ve been married for nine years, and he has never once seen or smelled my business. ~ Melissa Gorga.
What confuses me about Melissa being so gender biased is that she is on a TV show and taking home a big paycheck. She is technically a working mom which seems like something that she would be so against considering her other statements. And with her filming schedule I highly doubt she spends all her time in the kitchen making homemade pizza, lets be real. I respect Melissa’s advice and her attempt to help women keep their marriage “hot”, but I definitely will not be taking it! Although I do not agree with Melissa’s statements I do not believe that watching reality TV shows like this is oppressing me in any way. It is simply filling my free time with mindless entertainment after a long day of using my mind.Therefore, I do not think it is anti-feminist to watch RHONJ!
Is Beyonce a feminist?
Beyonce is a beautiful, talented, intelligent superstar, who is also a wife and a mother. She is one truly amazing person and she happens to be female. Because she is so amazing and because she is soooo female (she has the best curves in the business) does that make her a feminist? Some people look at her as one of the strongest forces in the “feminist movement” empowering women to “run the world.” Other people would not agree that someone who tells “bitches” to “bow down” is a good feminist at all.
Recently Queen B shared with the world an essay she wrote titled “Gender equality is a myth.” She brings up the fact that women make 77 cents to a mans’ dollar and has this to say about it;
“But unless women and men both say this is unacceptable, things will not change. Men have to demand that their wives, daughters, mothers, and sisters earn more – commensurate with their qualifications and not their gender. Equality will be achieved when men and women are granted equal pay and equal respect….” Beyonce Knowles
So it seems as though Beyonce believes women are not equal to men because of the 23 cent salary gap. She does have faith that we can change the current circumstances…
“We have a lot of work to do, but we can get there if we work together. Women are more than 50 percent of the population and more than 50 percent of voters. We must demand that we all receive 100 percent of the opportunities…” Beyonce Knowles
Beyonce even talks about feminism on her latest album, Beyonce. So I guess it is safe to say she is a feminist. I definitely respect her use of super stardom to promote gender equality. I find it surprising that she feels so strongly about women earning more money because let’s face it, Beyonce is not a successful “Woman.” She is a successful person in general and I do not think her success has been oppressed in any way, so the fact that she cares so strongly about us non-superstar females out there earning more money, well, that’s pretty dope. Now that she has wrote this essay and made her feelings about gender inequality public, I am eager to see what she does to promote gender equality in the future. Is she going to prove to be a really strong force in raising that 77 cents to a dollar, or is Beyonce seductively feeding us lip service?
And so back to the question: How do we find and create moments of liberation within contexts of oppression?
Well, a whole “feminist movement” has been created due to the “oppression” of women, and it seems as though this movement is gaining more and more force at an exponential rate, especially in the past few years. What I have learned so far about the topic of feminism is that it is extremely difficult to define and understand because of how complex it is. There are so many types of “feminists” who all have different ideas and opinions on the subject. I still do not know whether or not I am a feminist or if I even believe in this movement, I really do not know If I feel “oppressed” in any way. What I do know is that I truly believe in equality. Not gender equality, but equality in general. People equality. People being equal without gender, race, age, sexuality, culture, or any other “label” being a factor. That stuff should not matter, people should all be equal. You should be able to make the same amount of money as the next person, marry whoever you want to, stay at home without judgement or go to work and have the position you so desire. I am looking at the bigger picture. Even if women were to wake up one day and be “equal” there still would be so many “groups” of people being discriminated against. So my advice is that maybe we should just stop putting labels on things and let equality thrive. Because the only labels that are important to me are the ones on my handbags. And in that case, I would definitely label myself as a “Chanelist.”
Xxx the other Queen B Brianna Cantore Terlizzi